Managing Life with Short Fused Parents: Tips and Insights

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I’m becoming short-fused.

I find it hard to get along with people. I know everyone has different opinions, but I get short-fused whenever I feel a conflict coming on. This happens so often that I end up avoiding difficult situations altogether. In a way, you could say I’m running away. By avoiding and removing things I don’t like, I’ve ended up with no one around me. How can I fix this?

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People have their own defense mechanisms. These are unconscious actions meant to protect themselves when something happens. Some people get angrier than usual, while others lie to justify their actions. In your case, you find safety by avoiding problems.

People’s personalities are mostly shaped during childhood. Those with avoidance tendencies often carry wounds from feeling rejected by their parents’ tone or behavior. A common scenario is when a child tries to talk to or ask something from their parents, and the parents respond short-fused. The child feels rejected and retreats to a space where they can be alone. Haven’t we all hidden in a closet at some point as kids? Since children don’t have the power to confront their parents, they instinctively avoid the situation to protect themselves.

You’re really struggling with this issue right now. Just look at the Five of Wands card, can’t you see? It shows the constant conflict within you over this problem. You want to go out and engage with the world, but your unconscious mind keeps triggering your old avoidance tendencies. The memories from your childhood are so deeply ingrained that you keep retreating.

As the Six of Cups card suggests, you long for harmony in your relationships. You desperately want warmth and love to flourish between you and others. Despite having an unhappy childhood, you sometimes want to believe those times were happy. However, like the Hanged Man, your actions turn you away from the world, making you see only your own perspective.

How can I break away from my short-fused parents?

The first step to healing is recognizing your wounds. It’s crucial to acknowledge the hurt you’ve experienced and how it has influenced your behavior. This step is the most important because it’s the root cause of all the negative things happening in your life. How well you handle this step will determine how your life changes. If you keep avoiding the problem, things won’t get better.

The second step is to let go of your feelings toward your parents. While it’s natural to blame them for shaping your personality, you won’t heal unless you forgive them. Just like in the first step, you need to remove the deep-seated resentment from your heart.

The advice card that came up is the Nine of Cups. While the methods I’ve suggested may be difficult, I highly recommend trying them. If you do, the deep-seated pain in your heart will be released, and the troubling thoughts in your mind will fade. The empty space left behind will be filled with confidence. Like the man in the Nine of Cups, you’ll be able to stand tall and achieve what you desire. The future depends on how you see it. You’re fully capable of making it happen. Don’t worry!

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The cups representing emotions and feelings are displayed like trophies on a pedestal. The man in front of them is full of confidence.
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